7 reasons why most Kenyans prefer come-we-stay

 



Come we stay arrangement has been a taboo for quite a long time especially here in Kenya in fact, majority of Kenyans prefer a come we stay arrangement over marriage probably because it is more convenient. 

This taboo is very straight forward and on the contrary most "come-stay-arrangements" don't involve any sort of verbal arrangement rather than actions. If it were verbal, then I assume that both of you would have to sit down and talk about it which would be awkward.

Here is how "come-we-stay" works. The day she decides to take her random visit, the mood is exciting and of cause she just wants to spend some time; do her thing whatever it is she has come to do like, cooking, cleaning and other extra curricular activities before leaving late in the evening.

Her visit will start growing gradually as she does the same thing over and over until eventually, she will start leaving a few of her things at your place probably to pick it up later.Usually, it starts with the smallest things like, hand bags, the clothes she wore during her last visit yesterday,her make up,and so forth. 

And the more she visits, the more she will carry most of her things with her until one day without you noticing, all her clothes are at your house and she no longer leaves in the evening as she was accustomed to. It happens like that trust me but, when you're love struck you barely even notice it.

Men will admit to is the fact that it gets kind of annoying especially if you meet those type of women who get in way over their heads; that they suddenly want to take control of everything in your house. 

"So I am like I can't even do sh*t inside my own house like having my friends over because she'll get mad wtf?." 

Here are 10 reasons I think most Kenyans prefer come we stay:

1. Chief Chef:

Come-we-stay marriage comes with free chief chef service meaning you don't have to go eat at the hotel which saves you money plus cooking is rocket science. Most men prefer to eat in hotels than cook probably because we don't have time or our minds are not entirely concentrated on stuff like dinner unless it's on a specially occasions.

2. Dowry is costly:

Most Kenyan men are not the type to throw grand weddings like that of Betty Kyallo and Dennis Okari which to me is just for show. 

After all why throw an expensive wedding only to end up divorcing 6 months later? There should be a contract agreement signed before the wedding for just in-case one of you breaches the contract that way I'll have my money back guarantee.

Come-we-stay marriage saves you the embarrassment of calling out for donations in order to fund the dubious demands that come out the wedding expenses. 

Why bother with donations from friends and family yet it's your wedding. I mean you're the only one popping her cherry so why should that be your friends and relatives problem? 

3. Good sex:

The one thing that we all are afraid to say but I will because I like to speak the truth is that eating the forbidden fruit before its time is more likely to bring you pleasure than you would at the right time. 

Unfortunately humans are naturally born sinister and in case you didn't know that sex before marriage is sin now you know. Come-we-stay sex is awesome but also destructive especially if it's not confined inside the sacred laws of God. 

If you are already in a come-we-stay marriage and you value it enough that you want it to last, then it's time to commit your relationship before God.

4. Cut off the dry cleaners:

You know that you're dirty clothes are going to be taken care of so there's no need to call or take your clothes for dry cleaning but if she's Kanye Westing in other words if she's a diva or she's afraid of ruining her new manicure, then you my friend are screwed.

5. No constant yammering:

Come-we-stay has it's own privileges i.e there are no time curfews as to the specific time you should enter your house because it's your house and she can't ask where you've been because she sees you everyday so she has nothing to worry about.

6. Team Mafisi Proof:

Come-we-stay is the easiest way to get her settled quick and if  it turns out that she is a catch, you know you have to plant your seeds quick in order to keep "team mafisi league" off her radar permanently.

7. Familiarize with your spouse's character:

Come-we-stay gives you a chance to learn about your spouses character. If you can't stay for more than 6 months without standing each other, then you're on a path to a break up. 

That is why most marriages last for 6 months or even 24 hours because majority of this fancy folks get married on impulse. You need to take time to learn about the character of your spouse and whether this is a person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Even if it means taking 10 years to do so.